Depending on who you ask, you could perhaps say that I come from a very traditional family along with my husband, but then again who exactly constitutes this “society” which seems to be setting all the rules for how we’re supposed to live our lives and everything around that? I would say we come from traditional families in the sense that both sets of our parents pretty much held similar views by way of what constitutes “traditional” careers to get into, something which is perhaps further driven by the dynamics surrounding immigration and integration.

Basically if you’re different in any way, the general view is that you have to prove yourself in a number of different ways, so we’re told to work hard, preferably having made more traditional career choices, such as becoming a doctor (I know), lawyer, engineer, etc.

It’s quite ironic though that as more of a progressive generation with regards to careers and career choices, one cannot help but hope against hope that their kids do exactly the opposite of what they did and look towards the traditional careers which are considered to be ‘safer’ in many ways. You cannot help but hope and wish your eldest who is nearing uni-age decides to go into law or something like that, whereas the likelihood is that they might even want to take something like a gap year in order to “figure things out” and “find themselves” prior to settling down to study towards your dream career.

On the level of your involvement as a parent however, that’s perhaps all it should be – a mere hope or wish. Do not get tempted to try and nudge your children into choosing a career you want them to choose, not even just through a slight suggestion or subtle hint. They must choose careers for themselves.

Having said that though, as a parent you likely know some of the strongest points possessed by your children, so in exceptional cases where your wisdom and experience perhaps suggest that you can play career-cupid and match them with a career that would be perfect for them, you can just do some research as to the possibilities they would have after qualifying. Your child might perhaps be very good at retaining information along with something like debating, in which case a possible career in law could be on the cards, but you’d have to present that to them by making use of a real world example, such as perhaps showing them a case study of a personal injury law firm such as Johnston Law Firm, based in Portland, Oregon.

I mean at some point sanity needs to prevail, because as much as your little champ might want to become a reality TV star, what are the chances of that actually happening, no matter how hard they work  or how much support they get from you as their parent? Identify their interests and their primary career goal and then support them by exploring the many careers which surround this primary career goal.

Alicia

Alicia

Being a supermum isn't as easy as I make it look. I may have the 'perfect' family, but life is full of ups and downs. I love my children, I love my husband, I love my dog. I'm a writer, a philosopher and a mum. Nice to meet you.
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